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If something doesn’t feel right, guess what honey… it’s not right.Far too often we allow ourselves to get into these predicaments that not only hurt us interiorly but damage us exteriorly. Our battle scars, our wounds and our pain remain on display across our foreheads for everyone to see.Being a strong female isn’t about having control over your relationships or your circumstances, it’s about having control over your surroundings, control over your emotional expressions, and control over your own life.  Yes, emotions can take us off our path but it should never lead you away from your  ultimate destination.Why do we allow relationships to be the center of our lives? We are we so intelligent and worthy of more but we settle for less.I see it all the time, from my own experience to the world of women around me. We tolerate what we shouldn’t, we accept what we dislike and we continue to take what we said we wouldn’t. We all are well acquainted with our own mistakes. Heck, I’m sure our mistakes are the only evidence that we’re truly human. But what I don’t understand is why there aren’t more women out there setting an example.Life isn’t about finding the perfect man to have by your side for the rest of your life. And if it truly is, then the moment he crosses your path, he will respect your every attribute as well as every flaw.Why… oh why are girls read fairy tales that depict a life changing moment in our life when we are swept off our feet by a prince? It’s the ultimate story and every little girl loves it. We hope and pray that we will be fortunate enough to have the magical encounter. We hope so hard that we almost try to mold every man we meet into the last piece of our puzzle. We’ll push and squeeze and pound that piece down hoping it fits, but sometimes… it… just… doesn’t.But of course, society has set this standard for girls that love = happiness and that is how we should live our lives: beside another.There is so much more to life than revolving yourself around your quest for love. What about the quest for serenity? The quest for success? The quest for purpose? The quest for significance?Life is about whatever you want it to be. Choose your direction and make yourself matter.People come and people go but your impact on the people around you is how you make a change within society. I always ask myself, “If I were to die tomorrow, is this how I want to be remembered?” Ask yourself that question and sometimes it makes you wonder if you are living to your potential.- Natasha Vianna